Let’s Get Real

LET’S GET REAL! We are a group of a spiritually, religiously, and culturally diverse women meeting regularly to discuss the deep and important things in life. We sit in contemplative silence for 20 minutes and then have a conversation. The discussion topic is announced ahead of time and may include a suggested reading or podcast. The topics discussed are ones that affect all of us, such as surrender, forgiveness, suffering, prayer, spiritual practices, compassion, etc. Expect the unexpected, as many religious, non-religious, interspiritual, philosophical, relational, and other topics will be introduced.

EVERYONE is welcome, simply bring an open mind and open heart. We strive to provide a safe, loving space where women can be authentic and vulnerable. What is making us feel most alive? What are we in pain about? Where are we encountering the Divine? What are we struggling with in relationships? What are we bringing to life creatively? No matter where you are on your spiritual journey, what you believe, what you don’t believe, religious, non-religious, it doesn’t matter – YOU ARE WELCOME HERE. Let’s come together to support and encourage each other on our spiritual journeys by telling stories, laughing, crying, and most importantly – offering our presence.

Let’s Get Real gatherings begin with the following invitation…

WELCOME. Our intention in coming together today is to offer each other our presence and a safe, loving space where we can be authentic and vulnerable. This is a judgement-free zone. We strive to simply hold space for each other, not interrupting when someone is talking, not offering unsolicited advice, not trying to fix anyone, not preaching, simply listening with an open heart and open mind to allow each of us to connect with our own inner wisdom in our own perfect timing. All spiritual understandings are welcomed and embraced here. When speaking of your own experience, feel free to use the language that most resonates with you, whether that be God, Jesus, Buddha, Allah, Source, Spirit, or another word, or none of these. No matter where you are on your spiritual journey, what you believe, what you don’t believe – YOU ARE WELCOME HERE.

Upcoming Gatherings

Wednesday, February 13th in Scottsdale, AZ

According to Brene’ Brown, “Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning, and purpose to our lives.” How do you define spirituality? We’ll share own our understandings and stories at this gathering.

Wednesday, February 27th in Scottsdale, AZ

Maria Semple wrote in Where’d You Go, Bernadette, “Maybe that’s what religion is, hurling yourself off a cliff and trusting that something bigger will take care of you and carry you to the right place. I don’t know if it’s possible to feel everything all at once, so much that you think you’re going to burst…I felt so full of love for everything. But at the same time, I felt so hung out to dry there, like nobody could ever understand. I felt so alone in this world, and so loved at the same time.” Have you ever felt so alive that you thought you would burst? We’ll share our stories at this upcoming gathering.

Wednesday, March 13th in Scottsdale, AZ

According to John Amodeo, “Being human means experiencing a soulful longing for an intimate connection. But have you considered how this longing stems from the very same impulse that moves us toward a spiritual life? The quiet impulse that draws us toward being intimate with others is the same impulse that invites us toward a spiritual life. We long to move beyond the boundaries of our own skin. Being human is a remarkable miracle. We have an inborn capacity to delight in the mystery and pleasure of deep, intimate relating.” Do you long for intimate connection, not only in your relationships, but also in your spiritual life? We’ll share our stories at this upcoming gathering.

Wednesday, April 10th in Scottsdale, AZ

According to Robert Augustus Masters, “Spiritual bypassing is the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs. It is much more common than we might think and, in fact, is so pervasive as to go largely unnoticed, except in its more obvious extremes. Part of the reason for this is that we tend not to have very much tolerance, both personally and collectively, for facing, entering, and working through our pain, strongly preferring pain-numbing “solutions,” regardless of how much suffering such “remedies” may catalyze. Spiritual bypassing is a very persistent shadow of spirituality, manifesting in many ways, often without being acknowledged as such.” Have you experienced spiritual bypassing in spiritual communities, in others, and even in yourself? We’ll share our stories at this upcoming gathering.

Wednesday, April 24th in Scottsdale, AZ

According to John Amodeo, “Being human means needing reassurance sometimes. Even the most secure people have moments of self-doubt, insecurity, and feeling overwhelmed. Whether you need a little or lots of validation, this is nothing to be ashamed of. Human beings are not isolated entities. Our sense of self develops through our interactions with people. We need positive mirroring to feel good about ourselves and life.” Do you feel secure enough to embrace your insecurities? We’ll share our stories at this upcoming gathering.

Wednesday, May 8th in Scottsdale, AZ

As Imi Lo has said, “Some people feel more than others. They are often told—spoken and unspoken—that they are ‘too much,’ ‘too intense,’ ‘too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional,’ and that their behaviors are either ‘too dramatic’ or ‘too timid.’ People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply.  The world is gradually coming to embrace the concept of neurodiversity — the idea that particular groups of the population are ‘different’ from the norm, with specific kinds of sensitivity, intensity, and giftedness.” Sometimes called a Highly Sensitive Person, are you one of the 15-20 % of the population who are wired differently? Is someone you love? Let’s share stories and discuss.

Thursday, May 16th in Scottsdale, AZ

Relationships can be full of miscommunications, misreadings, and other misunderstandings. You say one thing, they hear something else. Better yet, you project motivations onto them, drawing out conclusions about their behavior that they can’t even understand. Brene’ Brown, a shame researcher whose mission is to teach people how to be their messy, vulnerable, authentic selves, recommends using the phrase “The story that I’m telling myself is …” to lead off, when you want to sit somebody down and tell them why you are angry, hurt, confused, insecure, or just can’t even name the emotion you’re feeling. Brene’ explains, “Basically, you’re telling the other person your reading of the situation — and simultaneously admitting that you know it can’t be 100% accurate. It’s a life-saver for a few reasons. It’s honest, it’s transparent, and it’s vulnerable.” Have you tried this technique in your relationships? Let’s share stories and discuss. 

Wednesday, June 12th in Scottsdale, AZ

According to Rob Bell, “When you forgive somebody, when you are generous, when you withhold judgment, when you love and when you stand up to injustice, you are, in that moment, bringing heaven to earth.” How has forgiveness of self and others played a part in your spiritual life? We’ll share our stories at this upcoming gathering.

Thursday, July 11th in Scottsdale, AZ

Richard Rohr writes, “Human consciousness does not emerge at any depth except through struggling with our shadow. It is in facing our own contradictions that we grow. It is in the struggle with our shadow self, with failure, or with wounding that we break into higher levels of consciousness. People who learn to expose, name, and still thrive inside contradictions are what I would call prophets.” How has struggling with your shadow contributed to your spiritual growth? Let’s share stories and discuss. 

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